You're right there - you can die, the baby can die, both of you can die.

As its your life AND the baby's, and there's nothing out there that causes stronger guilt than anything at all to do with your child/children/baby right down to the choices you make and repercussions thereof, then i think having someone talk turkey with me without getting as emotional as i will no doubt be, can only be a good thing.

*hugs* to you, sweetheart.